Shorts – 045

It seems to me that we spend way too much time arguing about facts.

I wonder, if we calmed down and explained the facts of our conflict – that I will X and you will Y – if we could communicate significantly more efficiently.

One might reply, “Such a strategy removes the humanity of our conversation.” And I would argue the opposite. Instead of focusing on strictly what happened or didn’t, which is often unknowable, we can explain what we think the facts are and then state our will as it relates to them. This allows the individual to be revealed – the human behind the voice. And it allows the disagreement to be clarified: Is it a difference of opinion about facts, or is it a conflict of wills, or is it something else complex like, “I feel a certain pain but I’m unable to reveal it.”

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